Over Two Decades of Family Law Experience

A divorce, child custody case or other family law case does not always have to be a combative experience. Even when the issues are complex, your future is at stake and emotions are running high, I will work hard to protect your legal rights while avoiding unnecessary conflict and heartache.

As an experienced New York Family Law Attorney, I am dedicated to all matters of matrimonial, divorce and family law. I am known for successfully assisting families in transition, and for representing individuals with both straightforward and complex issues related to divorce. My practice, based in Hauppauge, extends to the trial courts of Suffolk County and Nassau County, New York.

As a skilled New York Family Law Attorney, I specialize in all areas of matrimonial and family law ranging from complex divorce issues to adoptions, including:

• Child custody, parenting time, child support, child support modification and child support enforcement
• Alimony, alimony modification, and alimony enforcement
• Equitable distribution of marital assets
• Domestic violence proceedings, temporary and final restraining orders, domestic violence defense proceedings
• Paternity issues and termination of parental rights proceedings
• Separation agreements, prenuptial agreements and cohabitation agreements
• Domestic partnerships
• Adoptions including step-parent adoptions, same sex adoptions and international adoptions

Call Curtis Exum today at 631-204-8305, or complete the contact form provided on this site to schedule your free consultation.

Practice Areas and Legal Definitions

Divorce:
A court of law is the only way one can obtain a divorce decree, dissolution, legal separation, nullity or other form of terminating a marriage.  Other than the termination of the marital estate, the court also has jurisdiction to resolve other issues that are intertwined in the existing marriage which include, but are not limited to: custody and visitation rights, division of property of the marital estate, spousal support, child support, restraining orders, etc.

Property and Debt Division:
Marital property attained during marriage, regardless of whose name it is under, can be divided.  Marital property can include real estate (including a home bought in contemplation of marriage), pension plans, vehicles, bank accounts, income tax refunds and/or household furnishings.  However, property that is inherited by one spouse is not considered marital property, i.e. a family business or estate.  If you are contractually bound with your ex-spouse on a debt, the creditor can require the entire payment of that debt from your share of the community property even though the divorce decree assigns the debt to your ex-spouse.  Depending on the terms of your divorce decree, you may be able to have certain support obligations under the divorce decree determined to be non-dischargeable by the bankruptcy court or in state court.

Prenuptial Agreements:
A prenuptial, or premarital agreement (often referred to as a "pre-nup") is a written contract created by two individuals who plan to be married.  This agreement lists all individually owned property, such as homes and businesses, family assets, stocks and bonds, savings accounts as well as debts, and specifies what will and will not remain individually owned property after the legalization of marriage.  Prenuptial agreements also specify whether spousal support will be paid in the event of a divorce, and the intentions regarding distribution of individually owned property upon death.

A factor that cannot be stipulated in a prenuptial agreement is child support.  A couple cannot lawfully agree in a prenuptial agreement that either part will in no way be responsible for child support.  Also, a few states do not allow prenuptial agreements to modify or eliminate the right of a spouse to receive court-ordered alimony at divorce, although a prenuptial agreement can facilitate in the degree of compensation.

Child Custody:
Custody is the charge and control of a child, including the right to make all major decisions such as education, religious upbringing, training, health and welfare.  Custody usually refers to a combination of physical custody and legal custody.  Many factors influence an award of custody and the way a case is presented in court can have a large impact on the result for you and your children.  If you are awarded the children as a primary custodial parent, it has far reaching consequences both to you and to their well-being and development.

Child Support:
Child support is a periodic payment made to a custodial parent from a non-custodial parent to help compensate a child's living expenses, i.e. food, clothes, etc., and any other related debts.  When one parent is awarded sole custody, as in the event of a divorce, the non-custodial parent is required to fulfill his or her child support obligation by making set payments, whereas the custodial parent meets his or her support obligation through the custody itself.  When parents are awarded joint custody in a divorce, however, the support obligation is shared and is based on a ratio of each parent's income and the amount of time the child spends with each parent.

The obligation to support minor children cannot be waived by either parent and is a right enjoyed by the child, not the parent.  Each state has guidelines that factor the amount of child support, such as the amount of time spent with the child, the income of both parents and the standard of living the child is accustomed to.  The court may allow deductions for items such as catastrophic medical expenses and travel expenses for visitation.

Jurisdictional Issues:
When faced with a relocating custodial parent, the court will general require that parent to give the other parent a minimum amount of notice prior to the anticipated move.  This notice gives the non-custodial parent an opportunity to go to court and seek orders restraining the relocation of the child.

These so-called move away cases have gone back and forth on allowing and disallowing a move by the custodial parent with the minor children for over 20 years.  While the best interests of the child have always been central to the decision, the uncertainty has made this area murky.  Prior to the Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act, when parents sought an advantage in a custody tug-of-war, they would move to a "friendly" jurisdiction (that is, a region with a history of rulings favorable to their position). However, after the UCCJA was adopted by all 50 states, family law courts were forced to defer jurisdiction to the home state, and this custody battle tactic lost favor.

Spousal Support (Alimony):
Alimony is temporary or permanent financial support paid from one separated spouse to the other, either in one lump sum or in installments.  Alimony is designed to provide the lower-income spouse with money for living expenses over and above the money provided by child support.  Alimony differs from child support because it is at the discretion of the judge.  Child support is usually determined by state-sanctioned guidelines.

There are several factors a judge considers when deciding whether to grant alimony. These differ from state to state, of course, but they usually involve things like the parties' relative ability to earn money, both now and in the future; their respective age and health; the length of the marriage; the kind of property involved, and the conduct of the parties. In general, about the only time a judge will award alimony in most states is where one spouse has been economically dependent on the other spouse for most of a lengthy marriage.

Adoption:
Adoption is the legal process by which a person becomes a lawful member of a family different from their birth family.  Once a final order of adoption has been ruled by a court of law, the adoptive parents gain the same rights and responsibilities as parents whose children are born to them; subsequently, an adopted child gains the same rights as birth children in regard to inheritance, child support and other legal matters.  In most U.S. jurisdictions, at the time the adoption is finalized, the adopted child's name is legally changed and the court orders the issuance of a new, amended birth certificate.

Divorce Mediation:
The basic attitude marking divorce mediation is a focus on solving problems, not fighting the fight. Family mediation is a voluntary process which gives a divorcing or separating couple the opportunity to make their own arrangements for their financial and personal future, while protecting themselves and their children from distress and the needless expense of litigation.  The strength of a mediated agreement is that it is built by both parties together in an open process that requires all participants to recognize and make accommodation for the needs of the other participants, often without having to compromise one’s own.

While no two situations are alike, the emphasis in a mediated approach is to achieve a satisfactory settlement in an efficient, cooperative manner.  This might include "four-way" settlement conferences where the parties meet along with their divorce mediation lawyers to work on a settlement.  The philosophy of Divorce Mediation is that as much effort should be exerted toward settlement as is traditionally spent in preparation for and conducting a trial.

Paternity:
Paternity covers all the matters related to proving the parentage of a child or children. For married couples, paternity of a child is assumed to be the spouse, unless there is a court order or judgment stating otherwise. For unwed parents, paternity can be established by signing an Affidavit of Parentage or by filing a paternity action with the court.

Legally establishing paternity or determining that someone is not the parent of child can have a significant impact on divorce settlements, property division, child custody, child support and the ability to move out of state.  Determinations of paternity can also have a significant impact on interstate conflict between unwed parents.

If you or someone you know in Long Island is involved in a divorce or child custody dispute and needs the assistance of an experienced New York Family Law Attorney, call Curtis Exum today at 631-204-8305, or complete the contact form provided on this site to schedule your free consultation.


 

Curtis R. Exum
Curtis Exum is one of the most distinctive young attorneys and a leading practitioner of divorce law on Long Island today.

Mr. Exum attended the University of Wisconsin-Madison, and went on to graduate with a degree in political science and international relations. By his mid-20s, Mr. Exum was paying his way through law school as a welterweight boxer. Upon graduation he worked for more than seven years for two well-known women matrimonial law attorneys, first in Manhattan and later Nassau County, thriving under their tutelage.

In 2000 Mr. Exum started his own private practice in Suffolk County, growing through referrals. He maintains a significant and diverse case load predominately consisting of complex matrimonial and family law matters. Mr. Exum is dedicated to being a sole practitioner, rather than joining a law firm, so that he can continue to personally oversee his clients’ matters, which he believes best serves their individual needs and interests.

EDUCATION:

• University of Wisconsin-Madison, B.A., 1985
• Quinnipiac College School of Law, J.D., 1993
• Hofstra University School of Law, Visiting Student

AFFILIATIONS:

• Member, Bergen County Bar Association (Member, Family Law Section)
• New York State Bar Association, Family Law Section
• Nassau County Bar Association, Family and Matrimonial Committees
• Suffolk County Bar Associations, Family, Matrimonial and Grievance Committees
• Suffolk County 18b Panel for Indigent Litigants in Family and District Court
• Law Guardian Panel Member, Nassau County, Court-appointed attorney for children in Family Court and State Supreme Court actions

Important Cases

Justino v. Justino, 238 AD2d 549, 657 NYS2d 79, 2d Dept. (April 28, 1997), a case that established that child support should be reduced when a child attends college away from the residence of the custodial parent;

Sitzer v. Fay, 236 AD2d 475, 654 NYS2d 595, 2d Dept. (February 10, 1997), that establishes that it is error to modify a final Order of Custody or Visitation before conducting a full evidentiary Hearing;

Fowler v. Rivera, 296 AD2d 409, 745 NYS2d 457, 2d Dept. (July 1, 2002), an appeal that reversed the Trial Court's award of joint custody after a Trial, and establishes the inappropriateness of such an award; and

Anthony v. Anthony, 24 AD2d 694, 807 NYS2d 394 2d Dept. (December 27, 2005), an action where the Appellate Court held an order of preclusion and attorney's fees was improvident.

Morales v. Marma, 88 A.D.3d 722, 930 N.Y.S.2d 629;

Pappas v. Kells, 77 A.D.3d 952, 909 N.Y.S.2d 157;

Anthony v. Anthony, 24 A.D.3d 694, 807 N.Y.S.2d 394;

Dermigny v. Dermigny, 23 A.D.3d 429, 805 N.Y.S.2d 577;

Fowler v. Rivera, 296 A.D.2d 409, 745 N.Y.S.2d 457;

Stedfelt v. Stedfelt, 258 A.D.2d 642, 685 N.Y.S.2d 799;

Justino v. Justino, 238 A.D.2d 549, 657 N.Y.S.2d 79;

Sitzer v. Fay, 236 A.D.2d 475, 654 N.Y.S.2d 595;